"As a child I never heard one woman say to me, “I love my body.” Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. No one woman has ever said, “I am so proud of my body.” So I make sure to say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age."
We can tell women and girls over and over again not to conflate their worth with their looks but until the world actually changes to reflect this, we will continue to see it happening. And it will continue to subjugate us until we stop the industrial manufacturing of these insecurities for the purpose of profit.
I want more photos of women without make up. I want to see the large pores, the stray eyebrow hairs, the wrinkles, the splotchy skin. I want the double chins, I want the “bad angles.” I want the fat rolls and cellulite to be visible, to be understood as normal parts of our bodies. I want all of us to feel good about ourselves without feeling like we have to use optical illusions to change how we look. I want wide, toothy grins and frizzy hair. I want the women I love to stop deleting photos of themselves celebrating their birthdays or dancing on the beach because they don’t feel beautiful enough to deserve the memory. I want body image to stop taking up valuable space in my brain. I’m so tired of our worth being tied to our appearance, so angry that despite knowing it’s bullshit, we often can’t help but play along in order to maintain any love for ourselves.
There’s a difference between wanting to change your body to improve and strengthen it and wanting to change your body because you hate it. It’s important to know the difference because one of those will destroy you from the inside out.
people will always call out people for saying “fuck skinny bitches” but when the diet commercial comes on, when the fat jokes are being made, when conversations about how fat people are detriments to society are underway, when a size 6 expects her size 26 friend to go with her to the mall even though there ain’t shit for her fat ass there, when girls are saying “i can’t cut my hair short because my face would look fat” & “when i learned that drinking alcohol could make you gain weight i felt like my life was over!!!”, and when family/friends/TOTAL STRANGERS are saying “we’re just worried about your health” y’all STAY quiet
because body-shaming someone who “doesn’t deserve it” would be the worst thing you could do, right?
Yes. Where is the skinny bitch outrage when fat people are demonized on the internet and off. Speak up ya’ll, can’t hear ya.
I’m really glad to see this discussion happening. Demonizing anyone for their body type is absolutely wrong, but let’s not forget who is hurt most by standards of beauty and body shaming. Let’s stop acting like a thin woman being told to eat a sandwich experiences the same kind or amount of judgement, discrimination, and dehumanization as a fat woman existing in a world that tells her at every possible turn that she shouldn’t.
One of the best decisions I’ve ever made was to stop weighing myself.
well yesterday i posted a selfie of me looking good in vertical stripes because the check out lady at the thriftstore where i bought it straight up told me i should reconsider my purchase cuz “vertical stripes are unflattering for your body type” and i got maybe 5 million bajillion messages and comments saying UM ACTUALLY ITS HORIZONTAL STRIPES THAT ARE UNFLATTERING so today im lookin really good in horizontal stripes too becuz im unstoppable and the world needs to understand that fabulosity knows no bounds :-)
"Our cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession with female beauty but an obsession with female obedience."
Anonymous said: Maybe if I get skinnier he'll love me.
Your body is not a house that you have to clean up before guests come. Your body is yours and yours alone. If he doesn’t love you, then he doesn’t love you. Your body is not the offering or the deal you make, okay? I know that feeling, that thought process. Maybe if I just lost the weight, I’d be lovable. Stop it in its tracks. You are the most important person in your life. Love yourself more than the idea of being good enough for someone else. You are a force of nature, okay? Be here. In your body. You’re allowed.
no one can ever, ever tell me that I should feel bad or wrong for taking selfies and appreciating my appearance. I will not go back to hating my body and face so much that I couldn’t look at myself without wanting to tear my skin off. no one will ever have a valid reason for why I should feel ashamed of taking photos of myself. I will not put their feelings before my own. I will NOT give up the love I have for myself because it makes somebody uncomfortable or jealous.